First of all, I would like to say that i am concerned about the mental wellbeing of Tee Billz at this time. I worked 6 years as a drug worker in Salford Manchester and i witnessed first hand how drug/alcohol induced psychosis drained the life out of erswhile viable young men to the point of suicide having lost their home, their pretty girlfriend (who is now dating their friend) lost access to their child etcetera.
Reluctantly i read the online outbursts and then painfully watched the Tiwa Savage interview, which although could have been useful as a PR tool to set the records straight and preserve brand Tiwa, but sadly only managed to make Tiwa look pretentious and disingenous. You dont need to tie scarf up to your ears like Ekaite or Comfo (apologies to Ekaite and Comfort) to show you are remorseful or upset or to play the victim, but what i liked about that video is the revelations...the expose about their fake life behind the scene, keeping up with the Kardashians amidst debts, drug and alcohol issues, infidelity, emotional abuse, witchcraft accusations and so forth.
That bit is where they got my attention. The point where Tiwa's mum was brought into the scene and the witchcraft accusation is where i feel compelled to say something. I dare say that if Tiwa and Tunji were resident in some village in Nigeria and Tiwa's mum was poor and vulnerable, on Tunji's accusations, she would have been clubbed, stripped naked, paraded in public as a witch and burnt to death. We have seen these instances in recent times, so I know exactly why i said this and although everyone is smitten or in some cases quietly amused by the decline and public meltdown of a celebrity union...some deriving sinister pleasure from seeing Tiwa fall, my main concern in all this is the issue of witchcraft accusations against women in Africa and how we need to address this horrible attrocious practice.
In addition to that, issues of mental health and alcohol abuse needs to be taking seriously in Nigeria and indeed in Africal, as most African people dont pay attention to health issues such as depression nor take alcohol abuse as a matter of health concern. Getting drunk regularly is not "faaji" its alcoholism and its rife in Nigeria where alcohol consumption is akin to enjoyment but at what cost?
I read the threads and i see people mock Tunji as some sort of loser who has become emansculated and intimidated by his wife's success and i picture a young handsome erswhile viable player in the Nigerian music scene who thought his wife whom he "made" (according to him) was going to be their own Beyonce and he'll be the Jay Z in the background, booking the Missus for gigs in London and NewYork, posing on the red carpet, being the envy of most Nigerian men etc, but what he got instead was boss lady, obsessed by her own success and perhaps slightly irritated that her husband is now a leach and a chancer, but not just that...a drug taking, alcoholic with debt issues.
She probably reminds him about the fact she pays all the bills and pays for his clothes too and if his Instagram posts is anything to go by, apparently she's tried to kick him out a few times already but for the "power couple" image which was more important to her than the reality of a healthy and honest lifestyle devoid of fear. Perhaps Tiwa's mum had said a few words to Tunji in her bid to protect her daughter from a husband who appear to be jealous of her (something any good mother ought to do) or perhaps she encouraged Tiwa to dump Tunji if she is no longer happy (something Mama Kardashian would do) which is just as much, since they all copy these people anyway...that does not make her a witch and it is on that note that i take exception to this pattern of blaming other people for our own problems.
I believe that everyone will get their comeupance. If Tee Billz actually "made" Tiwa and is now being used and dumped as he is infering, then we shall see how things unfold although when i watch Tiwa savage perform, apart from the beyonce copy work, I do see a very talented beautiful woman with a high work ethics.
I once watched her at Manchester Ritz in 2014 and she was out of breath while trying to talk to the fans inbetween her very rigorous dance routine as well as the singing and pouncing up and down the stage shouting "let me here you" "put your hands together" etc...so i do wonder if Billz claim of making Tiwa is 100% genuine without Tiwa putting in the work for her own success. If you made Tiwa, then i say make someone else...infact make two more just for back up in case the new one's mum try to jazz you again.
I am a supporter of equal rights and i dont see why a woman who makes all the money, pays all the bills and cloth you must cook for you in addition. Tunji boil some rice and fry some dodo or eat some gala. Put butter in agege bread or buy take away from Mama Put and microwave it or better still just eat at the Idibias, but i disagree with the gender role stereotype or some archaic cultural rule thats says a woman must cook. If our culture is to thrive, then it must evolve, therfore as much as the woman is globally perceived as the home maker which cooking is an integral part of, it is not cast in stone and a lot of crisis will be averted if we start thinking forward.
I am also in support of Tiwa's decision to end a toxic marriage. For every Tiwa Savage, there are thousands of African women trapped in abusive marriages living in fear...women who work very hard, earn money to the home but still do all the work like slaves. For the women who love and enjoy this, i say kudos but for those who feel the weight and the pain, i say speak up and for the men who think that they are entitled just because they are husbands, i say wake up.
I am in support of Tiwa's mum. She is not a witch, she is a legend and i am proud of her. The duty of a mother is to protect her child and a failed marriage is not the end of the world at all. Life goes on and its time for another chapter.
In all of this, my heart goes to Tee Billz. First you need to clean your act up my man. You need drug and alcohol counselling (I know a place in Salford, Manchester and i can help you with that) then you need to go back to the drawing board and start afresh. But first of all, you need to be at peace with your enstranged wife, apologise to the woman you called a witch, be at peace with the universe and you can get back all you lost...including your beautiful wife.
But...First things FIRST!!!
